Here's how to check out your new partner in 24 hours

Here's how to check out your new partner in 24 hours

You have met someone.
The chemistry is right, the messages are sweet, and everything feels perfect. But deep down, the question remains: Who is this person really?

In times of Tinder, Instagram and fake identities, healthy caution is not paranoia — it is self-protection.

In this guide I will show you a realistic 24-hour plan, A tool that allows you to thoroughly, but legally, vet your new partner. All using publicly available sources.

Why you should do this

Romance scams, married people pretending to be single, and people with dark secrets are unfortunately not uncommon. It's better to check too often than not often enough.

Important note beforehand: This check is required legal and ethical Stay away. Stalking or hacking is a crime.

The 24-hour check – step by step

Hours 1-2: Basic check (Social Media & Profile)

• Look all Profiles precisely (Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, LinkedIn, Xing, VK)
• Pay attention to:
• How old are the photos really?
• Are there any inconsistencies in the life story?
• How many real friends/followers does the person have?
• Is the relationship status hidden?

Pro tip: Take a look at the tagged photos and comments.

Hours 3–4: Reverse Image Search

Upload your profile photos to the following services:

• PimEyes (best facial recognition)
• Google Images
• TinEye
• Yandex Images

Often the same photos appear under different names or on dating profiles.

Hours 5–8: Username & Email Research

• Enter your username at WhatsMyName.app a
• Check the email address with Holehe (On which platforms is she registered?)
• Search at HaveIBeenPwned (Was data leaked?)

Hours 9–12: Public Registers & Documents

• Das Örtliche / 11880.com — Address and telephone
• Commercial Register (www.handelsregister.de) — if the person is self-employed
• Register of Associations — Club memberships
• Land register (via notary or partly online) — Real estate ownership

Hour 13-18: Social Circle & Mutual Friends

• Look at mutual friends
• Discreetly write to 1-2 mutual acquaintances ("How long have you known each other?")
• Search for old posts ("Ex-partner", "Divorce", "Children")

Hours 19–22: Recognizing Red Flags

Pay particular attention to the following warning signs:

• Quick declarations of love
• Stories about a "difficult past" with demands for money.
• Contradictions in narratives
• Avoiding video calls
• Too perfect or too dramatic a life story

The best free tools of 2026

1. WhatsMyName.app
2. PimEyes
3. Google Dorks (e.g. ""Name" "City"")
4. Truecaller / NumLookup (Phone number)
5. Social Media Search
6. Wayback Machine (archive.org) — deleted profiles

True story

Anna from Stuttgart met "Thomas" on Bumble. After 10 days, he wanted money for "an investment".
Through PimEyes and WhatsMyName, she discovered that he was active under three different names and had already scammed several women. She broke off contact and saved herself a lot of heartache.

Legal boundaries in Germany (very important!)

• The collection of publicly available information is legal.
• Stalking (§ 238 StGB), unauthorized monitoring or spying on passwords is a criminal offense.
• If you confront the person, do so carefully and without revealing the source.

My recommendation: Use this knowledge for your own safety, not for control or revenge.

FAQ – Frequently Asked Questions

Question: Is it morally wrong to check out a new partner?
Answer: No. In this day and age, it's responsible.

Question: What do I do if I find something suspicious?
Answer: Gather evidence, speak openly about it, or break off contact.

Question: Is it possible to completely "scan" someone?
Answer: 80–90 % yes, unless the person is extremely careful.

Question: Should I do this before the first meeting?
Answer: Ideally, it would be before then, but at least in the first 1-2 weeks.

Question: What if the person leaves almost no trace on the internet?
Answer: This is also a warning sign. Be especially careful.

Conclusion

Checking out a new partner within 24 hours is easier than ever. With the right tools and a systematic approach, you can protect yourself from the biggest disappointments and risks.

The most important rule is:
Trust is good — but verification is better.

Use these methods responsibly. Not to control, but to protect yourself. A healthy relationship is based on honesty—and that starts when you first get to know each other.

Further links:

• How to professionally vet someone yourself
• Infidelity exposed
• Private detective for €0

You are the investigator.
Protect your heart with common sense.